Raise your hand if working with your significant other has been EYE OPENING for the last few weeks. Andrew and I are on week four now, and I think we’ve figured out a good system. Today on the blog, I’m discussing tips for successfully working from home with your significant other (and not wanting to kill each other in the process).
This must’ve been a shock for a lot of couples. To be honest, some of us never ever get to see our partners actually working. Before the pandemic, I had never really heard Andrew on the phone in meetings, etc. And now, it’s daily…
It can be a lot having to spend all day with your partner, and then all night. In most of our cases, pre-pandemic, I wouldn’t see Andrew between the hours of 8am-6pm. Then it was nice coming home, having dinner together, and catching up on what happened in our days.
However now, we’re here together ALL. DAY….in our 2 bedroom condo.
It’s a transition, you know?
So, I thought it would be nice to throw out some tips for successfully working from home with your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, roommate, or whoever…
FIGURE OUT YOUR WORKING STYLES.
This is HUGE. To be honest, we don’t really know what our partner’s working style is, because we’ve never had to work with them. I just realized that Andrew’s working style is having the TV on in the background or music playing at all times. (Unless he’s on a phone meeting) Whereas my working style is complete silence. TV is very distracting to me, and I can’t write anything if I’ve got music on in the background.
Andrew can wake up and get right to working, whereas I have to gradually get up, make a coffee, sit with my thoughts for a while, and plan out my day.
So, figure out what each person likes/ doesn’t like, and be respectful of each other’s working style.
SPACE & BOUNDARIES.
No matter where you are, try and figure out having separate spaces/areas. This goes back to working styles as well. I need a space that’s clean and organized or else I can’t get work done. Clutter doesn’t bother Andrew. So, he’s taken the living room area, wheres I’m in the bedroom. There’s no TV or distractions in the bedroom. If I was in the living room area, I would be cleaning the kitchen all day because it’s right there, and would be too distracting for me.
I know this isn’t always possible, but try to find different spaces away from each other. Boundaries are a big one as well. Just because you’re home together, doesn’t mean you’re spending every moment together. You’re working, so treat it like a work day. Spend your day apart and set those boundaries right from the beginning.
STICK TO A ROUTINE IF YOU CAN.
I get it, things are SHOOK right now. Work hours are kind of all over the place, maybe you’re home with the kids, and your significant other is yelling from the other room if we need more salsa and chips. True story. Amongst all this, try and find a routine. Wake up, make the bed, brew your coffee, eat some breakfast, make your to-do list, etc.
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Since you both are home, you do get the luxury of taking breaks together, which is so nice! Have coffee together in the morning if you can, and then head to your own space for the day. Take a lunch break together. You might not always get to have lunch together daily, but whenever you can, go for it. A mid-day workout or a walk is always nice. We’ve been enjoying a quick 15 minute sweat session almost daily!
DIVIDE UP THE HOUSEWORK.
When it comes to the housework, figure that out early on or else it can get messy (literally and figuratively!) Since working from home, we’ve noticed that we have a lot more mess in the kitchen, less laundry to do, and run the dishwasher twice as much. We’ve kind of been mindful of who is doing what. If Andrew’s had a longer day, I will take care of cleaning the kitchen, and maybe he’ll cook dinner. Figure out what works for you but make sure it’s manageable for both of you.
AVOID UNNECESSARY FIGHTS.
PICK YOUR BATTLES. Especially at this time. I can be real annoying when it comes to the little things around the house. I always want the kitchen clean, pillows fluffed, bed made, throws folded neatly, bathrooms spotless, etc. Well, at a time like this, when we’re constantly working from home, we can’t have everything, can we? LOL. So, let shit go. You don’t want to get into unnecessary fights at this time. You want to keep the peace, ya know? However, if it gets too heated, know when to call it. Go back to your “space” and let the dust settle for a few hours.
My new thing is finding time once or twice a week for “cleaning time”. This is after work hours, where we can spend an hour just making sure the condo gets fully cleaned to my standards.
You won’t always have this time together, so enjoy it! Have fun. Laugh. Bake cookies. Have a happy hour drink at 1pm, throw some Bailey’s in your coffee in the morning and bust out the coconut oil lube for some afternoon sex. 😉
By the way, I should mention that if you are parents who are adjusting with kids being home from school, you deserve EVERRYYTHINGGG. You’re probably laughing at this post, and that’s okay. This is more tailored for us who don’t have kiddies running around.
Okay, who else is working with their S/O? What tips do you have for successfully working from home with your significant other? Share in the comments, so that we all can benefit.
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