It’s no secret that 2018 is going to be the year women make it in the BADASS BOSS WORLD. Not to say that other years they weren’t, but with everything going on, I feel like this year, women will make an impact. No? #TimesUp. It’s time for the boss babes to shine.
We’re seeing women speak up more, sharing their opinions, female celebs are voicing more than ever before, we’re seeing more women entrepreneurs, etc. Which is A GREAT THING.
BADASS BOSS BABES, errrwhere.
The common denominator that all these women share, is confidence.
It’s a trait that they need to have.
Are you a confident badass? If so, this post isn’t for you. Carry on being amazing.
If not, read on. Because I’m sharing a few tips on how to get there. Some people are born with the confidence gene. And others have to work on it.
Confidence is contagious. When you see a confident person walk in a room, their energy just exudes through their pores. Like, you want to befriend that person, and catch some of their confident vibes. No? Anyone else feel that way? There’s something amazing about seeing someone 100% comfortable being themselves. They don’t feel the need to act a certain way, or behave any differently. They are happy being EXACTLY who they are.
In this world we live in, where social media is present everywhere we go, it’s slightly harder to be confident. Social media can be a real confidence-killer, TBH. But, instead of feeling sorry for yourself, GET YOUR GROOVE BACK. Block out the bullshit, and carry on.
HERE’S HOW TO BE A BOSS BABE:
I’ve said this before on The Chic Confidential, and I’ll say it again.
[ FOCUS ON YOUR OWN SHIT ]
It’s easy to get distracted with what other people are doing. Their successes, their accomplishments, their lives. In fact, even when we don’t want to know about others, sometimes, we can’t get away from it. Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat etc. just throws it in your face. So, we have to FOCUS. ON. OUR. OWN. SHIT. Don’t compare yourself to next door Nancy. Go at your own pace, and work on being a confident badass. Because there’s no limit of the number people who can be boss babes. We can ALLL achieve greatness. Instead of comparing, be happy for them. Genuinely rejoice in someone else’s success.
[ STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOURSELF ]
“It’s Monday, I’m tired, so I won’t go to the gym” [GUILTY AF!]
“I don’t have time to read, because I work too much”
“I haven’t started my business because it’s not the right time yet”
“I just don’t have the time”
STOP THIS. If you want to do something, just fucking do it. You’re making excuses because you don’t want to do something. And that’s fine. But admit that you just don’t want to do it. Don’t make excuses for yourself. That’s just pathetic.
I used to say “I’m tired, I don’t want to go to the gym” ALL THE TIME. But really, the truth was not that I was tired, but because I just didn’t want to. I STILL don’t want to. LOL. But that’s another discussion on it’s own. Point is…even with all the shit I have going on, I can make the time (if I want to) to go to the gym.
Don’t make excuses to the friend you don’t want to see. Life is short. Don’t see them if you don’t WANT to. But don’t say it’s because you don’t have the time. It’s very easy to make excuses. It’s MUCH more difficult to think of reasons why you should be doing something. But kick your butt into gear, and do the things you’ve been putting off! Because, unless you’re the President of the United States, you have the fucking time.
[ STAY AWAY FROM NEGATIVE ]
This is an easy one. I’ve said this 8990374875 times. Cut that shit out. You just don’t need that in your life. I’m not saying you will get rid of every single negative person in your life. Because realistically, there are way more negative people than positive people in the world. So, you’ll never avoid them. But you CAN block out the negative. Befriend positive people – people who will push you to do better, people who will praise your small business ideas, and help you take it to the next level. Negative people will laugh at your crazy ideas, and tell you to be “realistic”. No thanks.
Be the kind of positive person you want others to be. Nothing is better than a room full of positive people. And don’t get me wrong – you don’t have to be positive every single day of your life. There are days where I just don’t want to get out of bed or do anything. (Usually due to the gloomy weather) BUT I’m not using the weather as an excuse. See what I did there? 😉
[ BE KIND TO EVERYONE ]
You know what I really, really hate? When a confident boss babe, is a total b**** in real life. Like yes, they’re confident, powerful, well put together, sassy, classy, and all other great things, but why are you a miserable bitch? Can you not be kind? I’m thinking of Miranda Priestly and Emily in The Devil Wears Prada right now. But, we LOVE them.
Really though, be kind. No matter how successful you are, BE KIND. I get a lot of DMs from new bloggers on Instagram asking me questions about the industry, and how to succeed or what they can do to grow their Instagram following. (I’m no expert) But I always shed my two cents and give them as much advice as I can, and I usually get a response back saying something like “WOW, thank you so much for responding, I don’t normally ever get a response back when I ask for advice/help.” Like, WHATTT?!?! Who are these people/bloggers that aren’t responding? RESPOND. Even if it takes you a few days to respond, you should still do it.
Overall, be fucking kind. It doesn’t take much. How awesome would the world be if we were all confident-kind-badass-boss babes?! LOL. It’s a mouthful, but it would be SO COOL.
What am I missing on this list to get boss babe status? Let me know in the comments.
I hope this post brings you some clarity and motivation.
++ If you liked this post, check out this post on International Women’s Day!
++ Oh and you’ll want this post on How to Set Goals and Actually Achieve Them!